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Yet there is no evidence of marital infidelity (as far as I know), the rest is assumption and innuendo.
True, I suppose, but as a great sage once said, "you don't need a weather man to know which way the wind blows".
Of course "something" happened! Human beings consume things, they expel waste and they have sex. These are absolutes.
We have to eat and we have to "expel waste," but we have no essential requirement for sex. This is far more information than anyone needs to know, but I've lived 38 of my 43 years without significant sexual relations. I've been a single man for the vast majority of my life and have lived relatively chaste through all of it except for a period in late high school and early college. And in my first marriage, sex pretty much ended after the first eight months when my wife started having second thoughts about being monogamous.
So the myth that a person can't be human and abstain from sexual relations is complete BS. It's not easy, and it means you don't indulge every passion or take opportunities that are offered... even if you
really want to. (And yes, I had numerous opportunities for sex.)
I'm not trying to make myself sound more virtuous than I am. I have plenty of sin issues. But promiscuity is not one I have gotten caught up in.
But beyond all of that... Bono is married and has a legitimate and God-encouraged way to express his sexual passions with his wife! Most people don't subscribe to the "
if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with" philosophy. Moreover, how do we know for sure that his wife and family were not on Edge's yacht? Bono and Edge's families often accompany them on portions of the tours and vacations in various parts of the world.
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The only difference with rock stars is they do all three excessively. (Want proof? Have you seen Bono's gut lately?)
I haven't seen Bono's gut, but I take your word on it. I don't think you can easily shove people into categories like rock stars, musicians, accountants, writers, plumbers, pastors, etc. and make blanket claims about the moral specifics of their lives though.
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I'm all for cutting a "brother" some slack, but cut me some slack.
I'm not on your case. I have enormous respect for you. I just want some evidence or admission before I assume anything of anyone. I've just spent too much of my life getting condemned for crap I didn't do. Most of my teen years, my mother worried I was "on drugs" and made decisions regarding the boundaries she would extend based on that belief. I've never used a drug that was no prescribed to me in my life, and I had my first drink of alcohol at age 33. For years, certain people I know have considered me a "liberal" (which they believe also includes a life of wanton immorality) because I'm not a fundamentalist. When I was living in seminary housing, one of my seminary student neighbors decided there was "immorality" going on in my apartment, and I face having my apartment secretly searched while I was in class. (I figured out what was going on because I used to have a bad habit of leaving cabinet doors open when I was hurrying to get ready for the day. One day I came home and the medicine cabinet door was close, the cupboard door was closed, and things were much more neatly arranged in the medicine cabinet than I had ever had them. I started leaving doors open on a regular basis in order to monitor how frequently my place was searched. Of course, they never found anything and the housing office didn't deny they had searched the place when I went to talk to them about it and see if I could help them find what they were looking for.) Late afternoon yesterday, I walked out of a bar with two of my female coworkers and walked them to their cars. Both of them are very attractive by anyone's standards. While we were walking out, I was thinking of this conversation. If someone had been taking pictures of me with them (and the public cared about my life) I could see how someone could write a gossip story about how I was cheating on Sara by going to bars with other women. They probably wouldn't have reported that I was there with my group from work and that we were celebrating the end of a very hard, but successful, six weeks of intense deadlines. They also wouldn't have known that Sara was invited, but she was teaching students and then going to early vote instead.
I could go on and on about being falsely suspected and accused. Part of that is due to being somewhat confrontational with people, with is occasionally a virtue, but mostly a flaw. I can get people irritated/worried, and they often assume certain things about me. I'm just fortunate that the public has no interest in my life.
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I cannot imagine anyone on this board extending the same overly-generous benefit of the doubt to Joe the Plumber if the story was about him instead.
I would. Why not?