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Writing a short script for church that will serve as a live music video for a song, showing a young girl feeling unloved and rejected, particularly by her mom and/or dad. also some hope of a future bigger love would be nice in the song as well. was thinking of 'someday you will be loved' by death cab for cutie but that one might be a little too tied to romantic love.

thanks for any suggestions.

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Parts of Tracy Chapman's 'Fast Car' could work -

The neglect part:

"You see my old man's got a problem

He live with the bottle that's the way it is

He says his body's too old for working

I say his body's too young to look like his

My mama went off and left him

She wanted more from life than he could give

I said somebody's got to take care of him

So I quit school and that's what I did"

The hope part:

"I remember we were driving driving in your car

The speed so fast I felt like I was drunk

City lights lay out before us

And your arm felt nice wrapped 'round my shoulder

And I had a feeling that I belonged

And I had a feeling I could be someone, be someone, be someone"

It was a dark and stormy night; the rain fell in torrents
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Kelly Clarkson's "Because of You" is about damage from a parent, but I'm not sure neglect was the issue in that song.

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These are all great, thank you all.

I think also more specifically if theres a song that communicates the child getting her self worth/identity from the neglectful parent. ie feeling unloved and incapable because of the neglect.

something that emphasizes the child over the parent conflict.

thank you for your continued support.

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Red Rover by Rosie Thomas

Red rover, red rover

Send Mary right over

Schoolbooks in her hand

And her shawl over her shoulder

And let her run

Run as fast as she can

Don't let her grow up to be

Like her mother

Heart so unconvinced and her world

So undiscovered

And asking for forgiveness

Not knowing how to forgive.

And oh

Just let her go

And oh

She's beautiful

If you hold her back,

She may never know.

Red rover, red rover,

Send Daniel

Schoolbooks in his hand

And a coat over his shoulder

And let him run

Run as fast as he can

Don't let him grow up to be like his father

Heart so set in stone

And smile so undercover

And opening the door to love,

Never letting love in.

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I think also more specifically if theres a song that communicates the child getting her self worth/identity from the neglectful parent. ie feeling unloved and incapable because of the neglect.
Well, at the risk of repeating myself, Harry Chapin's "Cat's in the Cradle" is about precisely that.
Since Andy has bothered to repeat himself, let me repeat him too. This is the one song I thought of the moment I read the subject heading. The only reason I didn't mention it is that Andy already had.

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The kid neglect element is very minor.

Yes and no. It's only in the last few lines of the song, so it hits you in a powerful and unexpected way.

"Baby wakes, and in her eyes shines light from the soul

The kind that Mommy used to carry so long ago"

That's got to be one of the most poignant, bittersweet couplets I've ever heard...

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The kid neglect element is very minor.
Yes and no. It's only in the last few lines of the song, so it hits you in a powerful and unexpected way.

"Baby wakes, and in her eyes shines light from the soul

The kind that Mommy used to carry so long ago"

That's got to be one of the most poignant, bittersweet couplets I've ever heard...

But does the tragedy of those lines focus on neglect of kid, or withering of mother (and nearly-inevitable withering of kid)?

We see what happened to the mother. We see, almost inexorably, what will happen to the kid. But does the song focus on the reason? The only hint of neglect of kid I see is the line "Grandma's there when baby cries." (And hey, at least it's Grandma.)

The song speaks to the cycle of "quiet desperation," and how the magic of childhood ossifies, dries up and blows away, leaving ashes and dust. I don't see that it points particularly to some role the parents play in perpetuating the cycle. It's just something that happens, alas.

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The song speaks to the cycle of "quiet desperation," and how the magic of childhood ossifies, dries up and blows away, leaving ashes and dust. I don't see that it points particularly to some role the parents play in perpetuating the cycle. It's just something that happens, alas.

I've always read it as being about a bit more than just the magic of childhood. The couple in the song neglect the entire spiritual dimension of their lives. The baby's the only one who has time for Jesus. So I think there is some culpabilitiy there on the parents' part:

"No happy ever after

They're working the holidays

They've lost the love of laughter

Locking their hearts away"

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I've always read it as being about a bit more than just the magic of childhood. The couple in the song neglect the entire spiritual dimension of their lives. The baby's the only one who has time for Jesus. So I think there is some culpabilitiy there on the parents' part:

"No happy ever after

They're working the holidays

They've lost the love of laughter

Locking their hearts away"

Of course that verse doesn't mention neglect of spiritual things -- that's implicit -- but yes, you're right on that score.

Even so, it's one thing to fail your kid in some way, and another to neglect him. The parents in the song are clearly inattentive to matters of faith, and certainly that impacts their ability to be good parents, but it necessarily doesn't make them neglectful parents. Neglectful believers, yes; less than ideal parents, yes; neglectful parents, not necessarily.

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This does not exactly fit what you are looking for, but I've used the song "God Must Hate Me" by Simple Plan to convey some of what a teen in the situation you describe might be feeling. Here's the first verse.

Last night I just wanted to have fun

To go out with my friends

I took my dad's car

I never thought he would find out

But I crashed in a wall

Man I'm dead

I guess it's no use

I'm screwing up ever little thing I ever try to do

I was born to lose

Yeah yeah yeah yeah

God must hate me

He cursed me for eternity

God must hate me

Maybe you should pray for me

I'm breaking down and you can't save me

I'm stuck in hell

And I wanna go home

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We settled on "Fix You" by Coldplay, partly due to the demographic of our church. We also worked in some nice choreography with the U2 like riff that appears in the middle of the song.

Thanks for all the suggestions.

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This is to mother you - Sinead

Also covered by Emmylou & Linda Ronstand

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcaJPowtFVs

This is to mother you

To comfort you and get you through

Through when your nights are lonely

Through when your dreams are only blue

This is to mother you

This is to be with you

To hold you and to kiss you too

For when you need me I will do

What your own mother didn't do

Which is to mother you

All the pain that you have known

All the violence in your soul

All the 'wrong' things you have done

I will take from you when I am come

All mistakes made in distress

All your unhappiness

I will take away with my kiss, yes

I will give you tenderness

For child I am so glad I've found you

Although my arms have always been around you

Sweet bird although you did not see me

I saw you

And I'm here to mother you

To comfort you and get you through

Through when your nights are lonely

Through when your dreams are only blue

This is to mother you

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If you can find it, Chagall Guevara has a great song called The Rub of Love. That may fit some of the specifics you're looking for.

The Rub Of Love

Dad said he wanted a boy/held me like a bundle of joy

these days he don't even smile/like I'm cramping his style

"Son, it's not true/of course I love you

but the pressure thing's building again"

Dad's gone AWOL...

absent without leaving

The rub of love

the rub of love

Dad's not talking at all/everything's making him mad

I used to come running to him/now I'm learning to crawl

"Son, get used to the cold/you'll soon have to face it alone

and please stop holding my hand/you're getting too old"

Heard him last night say "the boy's alright

but the father thing still doesn't fit

gotta get away for a while/gotta find out who I am"

The rub of love...what was that vow you made?

the rub of love...and what about the girl you wed?

she's working double shifts to keep us fed

and that's the rub

Dad says he sorted it out/got himself a better career

had himself a new baby boy/another bundle of joy

Every other week on visiting day/I get tolerated by his new wife

I swear, if he ever really held me

they'd have to pry me off with the jaws of life

The rub of love

the rub of love

The rub of love...what was that vow you made?

the rub of love...was I too much to bear?

dad, do you even care?

that is the rub

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You might try Confessions of a Broken Heart (Daughter to Father) by Lindsay Lohan.

Pink's music is genius compared to Lindsay Lohan. I only suggest it as possibly being fitting to the medium in which it is being presented. It also depends on who your audience is.

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