On being religious but not spiritual
#21
Posted 16 August 2010 - 05:56 PM
: I was surprised to find that a lot of teachers and preachers thought that 'What would Jesus do?' was a flawed idea.
I'm surprised that he was surprised. "What would Jesus do?" has ALWAYS struck me as a slightly flawed way of putting the question. The question we SHOULD be asking ourselves is "What would Jesus have US do?" And sometimes, I think, Jesus lets us make it up as we go.
One of the most obvious rebuttals to the simplistic WWJD? approach is to ask, "Would Jesus get married?" Well, no -- no he wouldn't. But does that mean nobody ELSE should get married? Okay, fine, sure, any number of the Church Fathers took a dim view of sex and marriage because it meant you could never be a monk, or whatever. But seriously: who today would take that position? Even the most traditional churches out there have sacraments for marriage and the baptizing of children -- despite the fact that Jesus himself never had a family. Is this supposed to be a bad thing, now?
: I am convinced that people who say they are seeking spirituality and not the Christian religion are on the right path. If this offends you, let me ask: what is the other option? The only other option I can see is for Jesus-hungry people to try to content themselves with the religious junk food offered in the next new topical study, the bigger building program, the capital campaign, the latest attendance figures . . .
In other words, when Spencer talks about "the Christian religion", he is referring specifically to topical studies, building programs, capital campaigns and attendance figures? Um, wow. That seems awfully reductive -- and probably, in some ways, culturally narrow.
When I hear the words "Christian religion", I think of psalms and ceremonies, liturgies and ministries, and above all the sharing of bread and wine in the act of Communion -- which, like it or not, is a form of "organized" religion that goes all the way back to Christ himself. I'm not really sure how actively involved the average parishioner would be in all that other stuff. (Although, yes, sometimes the local Christian community needs to concern itself with things like finding actual spaces in which to worship on a quasi-permanent basis -- and that, in turn, means that the local Christian community needs to think about rent or getting a mortgage for the church building or whatever. But why should that be a problem?)
If "I'm not religious but I'm a very spiritual person" equates to "I'm not married but I'm a very sexual person", then it sounds to me like Spencer is almost making an argument equivalent to the idea that marriage kills romance, so we should always stay romantically involved with someone -- we should keep on dating them -- but without actually marrying them. Because once we marry them, we have to deal with, y'know, all the annoying nitty-gritty stuff like where we hang the towels and who gets to pick up the dry-cleaning and all that other boring stuff.
#22
Posted 16 August 2010 - 06:30 PM
Christian, on 16 August 2010 - 04:11 PM, said:
I'm reminded of the Calvinist who joyfully cornered me in a five points debate at a church picnic once, while his poor, frantic wife was left to chase their two young children around the entire time. This is "religion" in my experience. It's not fake at all, it just has a tendency to think of itself as far more important than it really is.
The sensitivity to realize one has been talking too long at a church picnic while your wife has been busting her ass, seems to me an impulse more in tune with "spirituality". For whatever reason, that impulse doesn't seem to function as well when one is focused on "religion".
Edited by Greg P, 16 August 2010 - 06:38 PM.
#23
Posted 16 August 2010 - 10:52 PM
Greg P, on 16 August 2010 - 06:30 PM, said:
I'm reminded of the Calvinist who joyfully cornered me in a five points debate at a church picnic once, while his poor, frantic wife was left to chase their two young children around the entire time. This is "religion" in my experience. It's not fake at all, it just has a tendency to think of itself as far more important than it really is.
I sympathize, Greg (and I'm a Calvinist!)
That said, I did want to add my two cents (something Steve and Christian noted, I believe) — everyone has different definitions of the words, but most of the folks I've chatted with that label themselves "spiritual, not religious" (which, I might add, is a fairly popular option on Facebook) tend to fall into the "like, I believe there's a god, I think, and it wants me to be happy, like, right?" category. Broad strokes, sure, but it tends to be just as much as a red flag to me as the people who slap me upside the head with doctrinal arguments.
#24
Posted 17 August 2010 - 07:27 AM
Jason Panella, on 16 August 2010 - 10:52 PM, said:
I agree. "Spiritual" in our culture is usually nothing more than flabby Oprah-speak for "I believe whatever suits me".
However, I think our own(and by "our" I mean specifically A&F folk) definition would be a little different. I prefer to think of being spiritual as being conscientious of the insignificant, invisible details of life. Someone who is spiritual is going to be keenly self-aware and able to recognize selfish behavior in themselves as well as see the good in others around them. They're also going to recognize God's hand in the mundane.
Edited by Greg P, 17 August 2010 - 07:40 AM.
#25
Posted 17 August 2010 - 08:10 AM
Greg P, on 17 August 2010 - 07:27 AM, said:
Jason Panella, on 16 August 2010 - 10:52 PM, said:
I agree. "Spiritual" in our culture is usually nothing more than flabby Oprah-speak for "I believe whatever suits me".
However, I think our own(and by "our" I mean specifically A&F folk) definition would be a little different. I prefer to think of being spiritual as being conscientious of the insignificant, invisible details of life. Someone who is spiritual is going to be keenly self-aware and able to recognize selfish behavior in themselves as well as see the good in others around them.
Some of this may be a carryover from the Jesus Freak days. To quote an old Ed Raetzloff song, "I went to see my baby to tell her what I'd found/But when she heard I had religion she was nowhere around/Religion didn't help me, it didn't do a thing/I was dealin' with the system now I'm dealin' with the King." Certainly that was a prevalent view among those who had experienced radical, life-changing (or at least so they thought until old, persistent sin issues showed up again; raises hand here) conversions. But religion was for the lukewarm pew sitters who went to church because it led to an upstanding image at the Rotary Club, and who joined churches when they were running for political office and dropped out of sight just as soon as the election was over. To be fair, there was reason to be cynical. But to be equally fair, the righteous (and self-righteous) Jesus Freaks discovered their own hypocrisies soon enough.
But to this day I'd much rather hang out with spiritual people than religious people, even when the religious people share my basic convictions. I am less and less concerned with doctrine or the outward distinctive forms of the various Christian tribes and more and more concerned with how people relate to one another, particularly their families and their enemies. I want to be a person characterized by love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control. I'm not convinced that the tribal distinctives can help me with any of that, and I need help. I'd like to be a spiritual person. I'd like to say that I can take or leave the religion, but I can't. I'll take it because I have no other choice but to live out my spiritual life in the context of a historical Christian tradition. But it's not where my focus is.
Edited by Andy Whitman, 17 August 2010 - 08:16 AM.
#26
Posted 17 August 2010 - 08:30 AM
Andy Whitman, on 17 August 2010 - 08:10 AM, said:
#27
Posted 17 August 2010 - 08:32 AM
I think Andy would agree with that statement, but I felt like I needed to make it.
Andy seems to be saying that personal struggles with sin trump doctrinal statements. But those statements tell us how to deal with sin -- how to identify it, confess it, and by God's grace, overcome it. These aren't us-vs.-them statements, although they've been used that way. But note that Andy isn't pointing to these doctrinal statements, only to those who have lived them out in ways that might be inappropriate.
It's important to acknowledge how people fail in their spiritual lives, but that's a failure of application of doctrine, not of doctrine itself. Unless he's blaming the doctrines, in which case, I'd like to know which ones he has a problem with. But that might be a topic for a different thread. It's a can of worms.
Edited by Christian, 17 August 2010 - 08:33 AM.
#29
Posted 17 August 2010 - 08:55 AM
SDG, on 16 August 2010 - 02:36 PM, said:
Note that the "religious" ethos presupposes fidelity as a cardinal virtue: You will find the way above all by being faithful. The assumed cardinal virtue of the "spiritual" ethos is personal authenticity: You will find the way above all by being true to yourself.
SDG, on 16 August 2010 - 05:25 PM, said:
Rather, I think that the key distinction between being "religious" vs. being "spiritual" has to do with corporate adherence to a received tradition (which has as much or more to do with ritual and symbolic distinctives as any "doctrinal" distinctives) vs. individualistic pursuit of one's own path, often with little or nothing in the way of ritual and symbolic distinctives, or perhaps without any distinctives at all.
Edited by SDG, 17 August 2010 - 08:55 AM.
#30
Posted 17 August 2010 - 09:58 AM
Christian, on 17 August 2010 - 08:32 AM, said:
I think Andy would agree with that statement, but I felt like I needed to make it.
Andy seems to be saying that personal struggles with sin trump doctrinal statements. But those statements tell us how to deal with sin -- how to identify it, confess it, and by God's grace, overcome it. These aren't us-vs.-them statements, although they've been used that way. But note that Andy isn't pointing to these doctrinal statements, only to those who have lived them out in ways that might be inappropriate.
It's important to acknowledge how people fail in their spiritual lives, but that's a failure of application of doctrine, not of doctrine itself. Unless he's blaming the doctrines, in which case, I'd like to know which ones he has a problem with. But that might be a topic for a different thread. It's a can of worms.
You're absolutely correct that there is not a dichotomy here, and that doctrine, when rightly emphasized, can and should lead to sanctified lives. All I can tell you is that it didn't work that way for me, and my anecdotal evidence is that it doesn't work for many people. I also believe that the distinctives, when held lightly and in humility, can be wonderful and life-giving things. Again, sometimes that happens, sometimes not. My primary issue with a focus on doctrine and denominational distinctives is that it's not that difficult. The gospel is good news at least partly because it is simple enough for little children to grasp. It's just very, very hard to live out the implications. And I want and need to be in a church environment where that is the focus -- how to live it out, not what to believe. I've pretty much experienced the gamut of what to believe within Christianity and have been membered in Catholic, Jesus Freak non-denom, Protestant mainline, and crazy charismatic churches, not to mention a brief flirtation with Orthodoxy. They've all been good experiences at times and utterly insufficient. And they've all been focused on their own little idiosyncracies and somewhat out of touch with what it means to change from deep down inside, slowly, over a lifetime. Of course, I am to blame here too. I wanted quick change, or, more relevantly to this discussion, I wanted to get lost in all the distinctives and doctrinal hair-splitting and not really deal with the deeper issues that needed to be addressed.
Obviously people experience healing and wholeness and genuinely become more Christlike in any and every church tradition. More power to them all. God bless you, every one. Seriously. But my theological distinctives these days are fairly straightforward. God, help me to be less of a jerk, to love my family, to love all those with whom I come in contact, including asshole bosses, to trust you in those areas where my mind screams out that you're not in control and that I am, and to constantly surrender my life to you. That's about it.
Edited by Andy Whitman, 17 August 2010 - 09:59 AM.
#31
Posted 17 August 2010 - 10:12 AM
Andy Whitman, on 17 August 2010 - 09:58 AM, said:
Andy Whitman, on 17 August 2010 - 09:58 AM, said:
Andy Whitman, on 17 August 2010 - 09:58 AM, said:
Edited by Ryan H., 17 August 2010 - 10:13 AM.
#32
Posted 17 August 2010 - 10:35 AM
Ryan H., on 17 August 2010 - 10:12 AM, said:
Andy Whitman, on 17 August 2010 - 09:58 AM, said:
Andy Whitman, on 17 August 2010 - 09:58 AM, said:
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Edited by Andy Whitman, 17 August 2010 - 10:37 AM.
#33
Posted 17 August 2010 - 10:44 AM
Andy Whitman, on 17 August 2010 - 10:35 AM, said:
Andy Whitman, on 17 August 2010 - 10:35 AM, said:
Andy Whitman, on 17 August 2010 - 10:35 AM, said:
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#34
Posted 17 August 2010 - 10:51 AM
Ryan H., on 17 August 2010 - 10:44 AM, said:
Andy Whitman, on 17 August 2010 - 10:35 AM, said:
#35
Posted 17 August 2010 - 10:53 AM
: The gospel is good news at least partly because it is simple enough for little children to grasp. It's just very, very hard to live out the implications. And I want and need to be in a church environment where that is the focus -- how to live it out, not what to believe.
I dunno. This sounds to me like the evangelical emphasis on Lowest Common Denominator Christianity -- and it seems to me that the "I'm spiritual but not religious" crowd has simply pushed that kind of thinking even further, to what they perceive as an even lower common denominator.
I'm also not convinced that "little children" can "grasp" the gospel. A few basic points, perhaps. But a lot of the stuff we teach our kids to get them through these early stages of cognitive development need to be unlearned at a later stage (do we teach our children about historical-critical scholarship, or do we just tell them the basic stories of Adam and Eve, or of Jesus and the apostles, and save the critical thinking for later?). And of course there are deeper mysteries, such as the Trinity, that they can only begin to plumb as they get older. As time goes on, we need to take our kids deeper into the faith, not keep things simple and superficial. And, as with our kids, so with us.
BTW, you may think my comment about Adam and Eve is a troll-ish tangent. But I've got three kids between the ages of 2 and 4 right now, and one of the things I'm dealing with right now is how to introduce them to the basic gospel narrative -- and "the Fall", whether understood literally or metaphorically, is a pretty big element in that story.
#36
Posted 17 August 2010 - 10:59 AM
Ryan H., on 17 August 2010 - 10:12 AM, said:
Just to be clear: by distinctives i mean things like modes of baptism, contraception, predestination, speculation about details of the afterlife, perpetuity of the miraculous gifts of the Spirit, eschatology and the like. Any discussion about being "religious" almost inevitably drag in one or more of these peripheral elements. And from my perspective, none of those distinctives have any behavioral impact on how one loves their neighbor.
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Edited by Greg P, 17 August 2010 - 11:22 AM.
#37
Posted 17 August 2010 - 11:18 AM
Greg P, on 17 August 2010 - 10:59 AM, said:
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#38
Posted 17 August 2010 - 11:37 AM
Peter T Chattaway, on 17 August 2010 - 10:53 AM, said:
: The gospel is good news at least partly because it is simple enough for little children to grasp. It's just very, very hard to live out the implications. And I want and need to be in a church environment where that is the focus -- how to live it out, not what to believe.
I dunno. This sounds to me like the evangelical emphasis on Lowest Common Denominator Christianity -- and it seems to me that the "I'm spiritual but not religious" crowd has simply pushed that kind of thinking even further, to what they perceive as an even lower common denominator.
I'm also not convinced that "little children" can "grasp" the gospel. A few basic points, perhaps. But a lot of the stuff we teach our kids to get them through these early stages of cognitive development need to be unlearned at a later stage (do we teach our children about historical-critical scholarship, or do we just tell them the basic stories of Adam and Eve, or of Jesus and the apostles, and save the critical thinking for later?). And of course there are deeper mysteries, such as the Trinity, that they can only begin to plumb as they get older. As time goes on, we need to take our kids deeper into the faith, not keep things simple and superficial. And, as with our kids, so with us.
BTW, you may think my comment about Adam and Eve is a troll-ish tangent. But I've got three kids between the ages of 2 and 4 right now, and one of the things I'm dealing with right now is how to introduce them to the basic gospel narrative -- and "the Fall", whether understood literally or metaphorically, is a pretty big element in that story.
It's just not that difficult to understand. Die to yourself, and live for Christ. Love those with whom you come in contact. This isn't lowest-common-denominator Christianity. It is Christianity. And if it isn't happening then you're not much of a Christian, regardless of your (using "you" in a generic sense, and not in any way directed to the specific "you" who is Peter) understanding of doctrinal nuance and denominational tradition. Getting back to the original issue, this is the difference in many peoples' minds between religion and spirituality. I've had enough of religion.
Edited by Andy Whitman, 17 August 2010 - 11:39 AM.
#39
Posted 17 August 2010 - 12:23 PM
Andy Whitman, on 17 August 2010 - 11:37 AM, said:
I understand the sentiment. But the more I teach in the religious studies field, the more I realize that even on a case by case basis, spirituality will always be expressed in terms that can only be defined as religious. One may think that they are shedding the visible and traditional trappings of religion for a purer form of spirituality, but that never actually occurs. We can only really trade one form of religion for another. (Put differently, anything you are currently doing in the name of spirituality, someone else is doing in the name of religion.)
You say: "Die to yourself, and live for Christ. Love those with whom you come in contact. This isn't lowest-common-denominator Christianity. It is Christianity." And I think this is at the essence of what the New Testament teaches. But what you have proclaimed here is something intensely religious. It is steeped in the specificity of traditional Christian language. It is an injunction to behave a certain way based on the assumption of a given mythical/historical reality. It is an exclusive claim that other expressions of Christianity aren't as legitimate as the one that you have described. You were just doing religion in that very statement. And even worse, the very claim that what you describe is Christianity smacks of the inhospitable exclusivity of the Christian fundamentalism that I assume you would also reject.
I have no qualms with considering myself religious because I consciously and unconsciously do religious things on a daily basis. I practice the rituals, celebrate the rites of passage, and converse fluently in the social and doctrinal language that is characteristic of historic and contemporary Christianity. While I am aware that other people have sacred and spiritual experiences by means of different ritualistic practices and thought patterns, I can't divorce my own from the concrete forms they obtain in time and space - which are those of Christianity.
Edited by M. Leary, 17 August 2010 - 12:42 PM.
#40
Posted 17 August 2010 - 12:33 PM
Andy Whitman, on 17 August 2010 - 08:10 AM, said:
SDG, on 17 August 2010 - 08:55 AM, said:
Andy Whitman, on 17 August 2010 - 09:58 AM, said:
Greg P, on 17 August 2010 - 10:59 AM, said:
Just to be clear: by distinctives i mean things like modes of baptism, contraception, predestination, speculation about details of the afterlife, perpetuity of the miraculous gifts of the Spirit, eschatology and the like. Any discussion about being "religious" almost inevitably drag in one or more of these peripheral elements. And from my perspective, none of those distinctives have any behavioral impact on how one loves their neighbor.
I know a large number of kindly, loving Christian people who, because they get, oh say a few theological distinctions on temporal government wrong, say and do things in the public square that I believe significantly hurt how many nonbelievers view the gospel. This doesn't mean that they aren't still kind and loving people. This also doesn't mean that their theological errors don't turn a large number of nonbelievers away from Christ. So, if it's possible to love your neighbor and believe the right things about God, there is no reason whatsoever not to do both. This is why I still call myself religious. Regardless of all my bad experiences in church, I affirm orthodox Christianity down it it's last trivial doctrine and tradition, because it all does really matter.










